My Wish for You – PERMA

 In Better Life

Think of someone you love. What do you wish for them? Do you wish them good health? Happiness? Meaning? Success? I think of my 16-year old daughter. More than anything I want her to be happy. I want her to find a career she loves and that gives her purpose. I want her to achieve her dreams.

Are these the same things you wish for yourself? It’s common to think of what we want for our loved ones, but we should also consider our own life. What do you need to experience your best life?

Martin Seligman, considered the father of Positive Psychology, believes there are five elements that can help people reach a life of lasting fulfillment and wellbeing.  He uses the acronym PERMA.


P = Positive emotions – These are the emotions that feel good, like happiness but also curiosity, serenity, gratitude, pride, and hope.  They make us feel good about ourselves and our world.

E = Engagement – When we’re engaged, we’re entirely absorbed in the present moment, creating a ‘flow’ of blissful immersion into the task or activity. This type of ‘flow’ of engagement is important to stretch our intelligence, skills, and emotional capabilities.

R = Relationships – Relationships and social connections are one of the most important aspects of life because we are social animals that thrive for connection, love, intimacy, and a strong emotional and physical interaction with other people.

M = Meaning – Meaning gives us a reason for our life and a sense that there is a greater purpose to life.  Everything is not just about us.

A = Accomplishment – Having goals and overcoming challenges in life can help us accomplish things that give us a sense of achievement, pride, and fulfillment.

Reflect on each of these areas and consider if any of them could use some improvement. What actions can you take to help you reach your best life?

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