It’s not fair! Why do I have to be the one to change?

Have you ever had to hit your brakes or swerve to avoid another car? Maybe you had the right-of-way at an intersection but the other vehicle didn’t yield like they were suppose to. In these [...]

It Felt Like an Attack! I Needed to Carefully Choose My Response

Have you ever had a coworker or a family member snap at you and it felt like you were being attacked? What was your reaction? If you’re like most people, you probably got upset. It’s easy to say [...]

I Didn’t Like Being Wrong. Name It to Tame It!

I have an embarrassing confession to make. Even though I’m in my 50s, I still have moments when I get my right and left mixed up. Just today I was driving to a meeting when my daughter who [...]

I Don’t Want to Hear About this Positivity Hocus Pocus!

10 Years Ago Let’s go back in time to about 10 years ago. I was working in my corporate job as a scientist in biotechnology. I had never heard of Positive Psychology, and I had little if [...]

What Causes Us the Most Negativity? And How Can We Build Our Immunity?

What causes us the most negativity? Based on anonymous surveys and feedback from clients, the answers I get almost always point to one major contributor – Other People! I hear about [...]

Probably the Most Important Contributor to our Wellbeing that Freaked Me Out

When I first started studying Positive Psychology, there was one significant happiness factor that freaked me out. It was repeated over and over and kept coming up as a main contributor to our [...]

Can You Stay Calm When the Other Person Is Venting? Try Detached Involvement

My husband was going to drop our daughter off to meet a friend at the fair. But when they got there, he quickly learned that they hadn’t discussed any of the details of where they would meet. [...]

Sometimes the Best Antidote Is Shared Gratitude

Feeling stressed? Discouraged? Stuck? Gratitude is such a strong antidote to many negative emotions but only when we actually feel grateful. Sure, we can think about a list of things that are [...]