The Skill of Asking for Help

Last night, I had the opportunity to attend an event called Project BRAVE. There was great music, engaging storytellers, and insightful speakers. But what made this event a little different than the ones I normally attend, is that the focus of the songs and stories was on mental health and substance abuse. 

A mom shared losing her 18-year-old son to fentanyl poisoning and her determination to create awareness for this pandemic.

A nurse shared being bullied by her organization on top of struggling as she was assigned to be on the frontlines of Covid testing.

A teacher shared breaking down into tears in front of a screen full of black boxes where there once was a classroom full of real faces.

There were stories about depression, anxiety, stress, and suicide.

But the overarching message was one of hope, and of the incredible power of asking for help. 

How easy is it for you to ask for help? As a society, it can feel like we’re taught that needing help is a sign of weakness; that admitting we aren’t perfect is a major flaw. Yet, the people close to us will feel more connected and relate to us more easily when we can talk about our challenges. And asking for help gives them permission and encouragement to do the same. 

Brené Brown says, “Vulnerability sounds like truth and feels like courage. Truth and courage aren’t always comfortable, but they’re never weakness.”

On the flip side; do the people in your life feel comfortable admitting their imperfections and troubles to you? Do they feel safe being vulnerable and asking you for help? Letting these people know that you’re there for them without judgment, no matter what, can make a huge difference.

This week, who can you ask for help? Even if it’s something small. Build the skill by practicing. Whether it’s friends, family, a mentor, or a counselor. By doing so, you help others see that it’s not a weakness, but instead, that we are better together.

“We don’t have to do all of it alone. We were never meant to.” – Brené Brown