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The first time (and only time) I went white-water rafting, I remember gripping the paddle so tightly my knuckles turned white. The rapids looked wild, the rocks menacing. (I’m the one in [...]

Joe. Good-natured, smiles in the hallway—and yet in our team meetings, he became someone else. He challenged every idea I presented. Every. Single. Time. He was the boss of several people on my [...]

Let’s be honest—we all want to feel seen, appreciated, and loved. Sometimes it’s the praise we never got. Or the hug we needed but didn’t receive. Or those kind, supportive words we hoped someone [...]

We can all probably agree that our brains are incredibly complex and powerful. So, for a moment, visualize your brain as a state-of-the-art supercomputer — we’re talking NASA-grade, [...]

Ever get irritated when someone tells you something you already know — even when they’re being nice about it? I do. Even the kindest reminder can trigger that little voice in my head saying, “Do [...]

Lately, I’ve been completely fascinated by Internal Family Systems (IFS), a powerful approach developed by Richard Schwartz in the 1980s. The idea is that we all have an inner family of [...]

Recently, I’ve heard a lot about the harm that comes from suppressing negative emotions. Experts like Gabor Maté, Daniel Siegel, and Richard Schwartz emphasize that unprocessed emotions can [...]

To me, the Holiday Season is a perfect time to think about love. After all, this is a common theme for many of our celebrations this time of year. I used to think love was an emotion that was [...]

When I’m riding my bike, and I see a rock or stick in the road, I remember the advice from when I was first learning to ride. “Your bike is going to go where you look. If you focus on [...]

Have you ever noticed how easy it is to let your stress and frustration out when you get home after trying to hold it together during the day at work or school? Or maybe you see it in others. [...]